DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?



EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).


Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage/Couple, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's behaviour/habit, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.


At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on theeuphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfilment.

Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):


THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the - expression 'the labor of love’.Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'ALLAH S.W.T determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Hi all reader,

Hi All,We meet again.
From the library of missctmysara,
Expressing feelings by simply,Writing letters formally,On issues of each other’s sensitivities,With teen issues especially,….or purely declaring love openly,With letters one can re-read easily,Of fond and priceless memories,
Comes an inspirational story,Each and everyone deserves an opportunity,Don’t judge a book by its cover so early,Beneath the surface, lies great discovery,Of faith, kindness and……Open to life’s capacity……..,and embrace the discoveries,Living an Awesome Life……..,One needs to appreciate life constantly,Live life meaningfully,
Educating children requires great strategy,Non-violence works effectively, Don’t take things for granted easily,Little things may seems petty,However, should this be done meaningfully,Add a sense of emotional security,To your love ones instantly, That all I want to share with reader…..Have a nice day…=)

at my sweet home...

Hidup ini tak sempurna tanpa ada nyer BFF.
bah kan hidup ini tentunya terasa sunyi tanpa gelak tawa mereka.
Ape pun kehadiran sahabat sememangnya m'ceriakan kehidupan lebih2 lagi setelah suka duka pernah ditempuhi b'sama2 & semua itu tak mungkin akan my lupa kan dgn begitu shj.

Ape maksud PERSAHABATAN pada diri awak semua??? krn bagi saya ;






P = Pertemuan itu bukan kebetulan tapi adalah satu ketentuan
E = Esok yg b'makna b'mula dari hari ini yg hebat
R = Rangkaian p'hubungan adalah kekuatan setip insan
S = Sosial yg t'batas adalah kekuatan satu p'sahabatan
A = Angkuh dlm p'sahabatan memungkinkan kebencian
H = Harmoni adalah teras satu p'sahabatan yg b'kekalan
A = Akrab pasti nyer m'bawa kpd p'sahabatan yg murni tulus lg suci
B = B'hemah itu wajar agar p'sahabatan lebih sempurna
A = Amarah satu sifat yg pstnya m'bawa bencana dlm p'sahabatan
T = Teknologi masa kini membolehkan p'sahabatan m'jadi lebih global
A = Ambil iktibar p'hubungan masa silam agar p'sahabatan kekal abadi
N = Nilai p'sahabatan adalah kesempurnaan & keserasian dlm p'hubungan

P'sahabatan itu spt mata & tangan. Ketika mata menangis,tangan akan m'hapuskan air mata. Ketika tangan t'luka, mata akan menangis. Ketika mata tidak bisa melihat tangan membantu utk merasa dunia.

Indah nya hidup dlm dunia p'sahabatan jika kita tahu m'hargainya.
Sayangilah sahabat kerana mereka adalah satu anugerah & cermin untuk kita m'genal diri sendiri. Kita harus b'syukur & jgn m'ambil kesempatan keatas sahabat. Untuk m'jadi sahabat yg baik, kita harus bijak m'gawal situasi utk m'jaga hubungan yg t'jalin..

itu saja dari saya buat kawan2 semua...my sayang awak semua...=)